Adolescent Counseling Services - UPCOMING EVENTS AND RESOURCES

Submitted by Roni Gillenson

Living with a Teenager by Robyn Alagona MFT, Site Director at Gunn High School

It can be difficult to predict daily life with a teenager. Teenagers have a reputation for being unpredictable, capricious, even inflexible. As an adult living with an adolescent it can feel frustrating, anxiety-producing and worrisome to experience the erratic changes teens go through in a week, a day or even an hour. However unsettling this may feel, you’ll be happy to know, this is perfectly normal behavior for a teenager. It is unsettling for us because as adults we often forget what it felt like to be in an adolescent body experiencing unknown, overwhelming emotions and not knowing how to effectively communicate our own experiences. These memories fade in part because many of them are painful. Adolescence is a time of great metamorphosis. Even the smallest shifts can feel enormous. It is our job as parents, caregivers, teachers, counselors and mentors of teens, to understand and acknowledge the challenges that they face and to help them make sense of this time.

The first step in doing this is to acknowledge our own reactions to the challenges of living with a teenager. As mentioned before, this can feel frustrating, overwhelming, and even insurmountable at times. But as adults we need to manage our own feelings so our teens have the space to experience theirs. You may be asking, how do I do this? Well, first and foremost, you the caregiver must care for yourself. You must remember to do the things that keep you balanced and centered, prepared (as well as you can be) to handle whatever walks through the door.

So much of what adolescents want is to be seen, heard and understood, as their own, unique selves. This concept can be difficult for parents. It is hard to watch children grow up and differentiate themselves from us, their families. This however, is one of the most crucial developmental goals of this stage of life; to become an individual who can go out into the world, eventually without us, and thrive.

Understanding and integrating your teen’s need to be an individual can be extremely challenging, but it is one of the major goals of parenthood during this phase. The important thing to remember is that this is not about getting it right all of the time, it is about being willing to try. When we model for our children, at any age, that we can handle life’s challenges, that we can make shifts and practice tolerance for things that frustrate us, we are setting the best kind of example, one of flexibility, maturity, thoughtfulness and a willingness to grow.

Adolescent Counseling Services is a community non-profit, which provides vital counseling services on nine secondary campuses at no charge to students and their families. To learn more about our services please visit the ACS website at www.acs-teens.org or call Robyn Alagona, Site Director at MA (650) 849-7919. ACS relies on the generosity of com-munity members to continue offering individual, family, and group counseling to over 1,500 individuals annually. ACS provides critical interventions and mental health services, building a better future for tomorrow. If you are interested in helping to support our efforts, do not hesitate to call to make a donation. It goes a long way in helping teenagers find their way!

Breaking The Stigma: Teen Self-Esteem
Presented by Adolescent Counseling Services (ACS), join a forum of panelists and keynote speaker Roni Gillenson, LMFT as they discuss the important topic of Teen Self-Esteem and Self-Image. This event is FREE. For more information or questions, please contact ACS at 650.424.0852, events@acs-teens.org, or visit our website at www.acs-teens.org
Thursday, February 9, 2012, 7:00pm to 8:30pm
La Entrada Middle School, Multi-Use Room
2200 Sharon Road, Menlo Park, CA 94025

Spring Sounds 2012
Adolescent Counseling Services invites you to a night in the Mediterranean! Bask in the sights, sounds, smells and tastes of the Mediterranean at Spring Sounds 2012! Wander through our bazaar, enjoy delectable cuisine, learn how to belly dance, and bring along your band of nomads for an entertaining evening in support of Adolescent Counseling Services. Funds raised will benefit ACS' three community programs and the 7,000 teens and family members served each year. For more information or to purchase tickets online, visit our website at www.springsoundsevent.org

Saturday, March 24, 2012, 6:30pm to 11:30pm
Club Illusions 260 S. California Avenue, Palo Alto, CA 94306