Thursday, January 29, 2015

Auditions for next season are now open.  Click here for more information.
January 30, 7:30PM
Cubberley Theatre
February 6, 7:30PM
Cubberley Theatre

February 15, 3PM
Cubberley Theatre
March 1, 3PM
Cubberley Theatre

March 7, 7:30PM
Cubberley Theatre

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Preparatory Orchestra
Kris Yenney, director

Friday, January 30th - 7:30PM
Cubberley Theatre

The mighty members of PACO's Prep Orchestra take the stage for their first concert of the year this Friday at 7:30 in the Cuberley Theatre.  The performance will feature a bevy of small ensembles, and the full orchestra will perform works by Geminiani, Tchaikovsky, Mozart, and the famous Concerto for Two Violins of JS Bach.

SuperStrings Ensemble
Kris Yenney, director

Friday, February 6th - 7:30PM
Cubberley Theatre

Small but amazing, the SuperStringers are PACO's youngest members.  That doesn't stop them from sounding terrific, however!  They'll present a variety of chamber pieces, and will join forces as an orchestra for pieces by Playford, Vivaldi, and Bach.

Auditions for the 2015-16 season are now open!  PACO is the Bay Area's premiere training ground for young string players.  We're seeking qualified musicians from elementary age to high school.  Please click here for more information and to sign-up.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

The Poison of Perfectionism

by Merrett Sheridan, LMFT, Site Director at Palo Alto High School
“I’ve failed over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed” – Michael Jordan
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly” – Robert F. Kennedy
At Adolescent Counseling Services at PALY, the most common issue we saw students for last year was academic stress.  At the root of this is often a belief around being perfect fueled by extremely negative judgments about making mistakes and failure. The cost of perfectionism and the resulting stress is extremely high, both emotionally and physically. At a perfectionists core is a belief that mistakes are unacceptable and that their self-worth is dependent upon not making any, EVER. The challenge here being that everyone makes mistakes so the perfectionist is inevitably doomed having set for themselves an unreachable goal and hanging their well-being in the balance of reaching it. This leads to high levels of stress and I often point out to these students that perfectionism and mental health are mutually exclusive, you simply cannot have both. Mistakes are nothing to fear and there’s no way around them, and if you react rather than learn from them they will have served no purpose other than to further eat away at your self-worth. 
Perfectionism can also lead to loneliness. Most perfectionists I have worked with will easily offer others compassion and wiggle room for mistakes and imperfections and quickly come to the aid of others, but insist on leaving themselves stranded believing that even asking for help is a sign of weakness and imperfection. This perfect way of being I explain often keeps people away from them out of feeling intimidated and unworthy themselves because they don’t compare with you. And that conversely when a person shows imperfection and vulnerability it actually pulls others closer in because they feel you are more human and relatable.
The reason I titled this article the “Poison” of Perfectionism is because of the release of a stress hormone called Cortisol whenever a person is experiencing distress. So let’s talk a little about stress and the negative consequences of high doses of the stress hormone Cortisol that is released when one is under distress. Here is an excerpt from an article in Psychology Today underlying the effect of cortisol on mental health:
“Chronic stress and elevated cortisol levels also increase risk for depression, mental illness, and lower life expectancy. This week, two separate studies were published in Science linking elevated cortisol levels as a potential trigger for mental illness and decreased resilience—especially in adolescence.” Published on January 22, 2013 by Christopher Bergland in The Athlete's Way (
From this perspective it’s easy to see that there is a connection between stress and mental health that in all likelihood cycles one further and further down the rabbit hole of depression and anxiety. First, the perfectionist has deep beliefs about their image which is not sustainable that causes high distress for them, leading to problems with mental and emotional functioning that is also not acceptable to them. Truly a viscous cycle. And, it’s not just mental health that is susceptible to the toxic effects of cortisol, here is another article discussing the physical effects:
“Some of the largest costs associated with perfectionism may be in terms of poor health. A longitudinal study following a sample of Canadians over 6.5 years showed that trait perfectionism predicted earlier mortality” The Price of Perfectionism by Gordon Flett (
So what can be done for the perfectionist student? How can parents and others help them to flourish and achieve excellence without falling into the emotional choke hold of perfectionism? First of all is to give perspective. Help your child to understand what the ultimate goals in life are and that the journey, while challenging at times is what makes up his or her life. That if you only focus on what you “get” at the end, there will inevitably a “next” achievement and therefore one never experiences anything but a temporary sense of satisfaction, losing sight of the rich experiences to be gained along the way, and exhausting oneself on the hamster wheel of perfectionism. Ask yourself what messages you are sending your kids. Are you somehow adding to the pressure? Check in with them and ask. One way to look at is too strive for excellence but not perfection. As parents you want your children to be successful, but what does that mean? Defining happiness is an important life skill that isn’t taught in school but may be the most important question of all. We all have the right to pursue it but many never sit down and really explore what it truly means to be happy. I invite you now to do that with your children especially if they are struggling with perfectionism. Just getting a healthy message from a parent can go a long way in relieving distress.
For parents of seniors specifically as college acceptance and rejection letters roll in, help your child understand that where one door closes another opens and that to let this perceived failure result in excessive amounts of stress, and therefore Cortisol, is like salt in a would. It’s fine, and advised, to allow them to feel sad and disappointed but then move on, re-group and review the end goal and design a new, informed map. There are always options and new beginnings. As a first-time college dropout myself I can speak personally to the idea that striving for perfection is not the only path that through perceived failures one can re-define, re-route and most importantly learn from experience and gather wisdom along the way. Somehow, I achieved many of my goals while making plenty of mistakes and missteps but I do my best to pay attention and integrate the life lessons that are ripe for the pickin’ along the way. 
Finally, here is a wonderful video on the subject by Harvard Professor Tal Ben Shahar, I invite you to take a look and watch it with any perfectionists in your family in hopes that helps to decrease stress and cortisol levels that are blocking the path to more happiness and emotional well-being for you or a loved one. (Tal Ben Shahar video) “Learn to fail or fail to learn.”

Adolescent Counseling Services is a community non-profit, which provides vital counseling services on nine secondary campuses at no charge to students and their families. To learn more about our services please visit the ACS website at or call Pamela Garfield, LCSW Site Director at Gunn (650) 849-7919. ACS relies on the generosity of community members to continue offering individual, family, and group counseling to over 1,500 individuals annually. ACS provides critical interventions and mental health services, building a better future for tomorrow. If you are interested in helping to support our efforts, do not hesitate to call to make a donation. It goes a long way in helping teenagers find their way!

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Gunn PTSA Wellness Program

The Gunn PTSA is proud to sponsor "Just for Moms of Teens/Pre-teens: 9-week Holistic Wellness Program" beginning January 14 (9 week session).
Wednesday evenings 6-8pm 
1/14/15 - 3/11/15
Gunn High School - Room K2
Use the newly constructed drop-off area off the intersection of Arastradero & Miranda.  Room K2 is corner classroom behind planter boxes.
NOTE:  Miranda Avenue is the tiny street that runs parallel to & immediately BEFORE Foothill Express coming from Terman.  DO NOT turn onto Foothill Expressway. If you did, you've gone too far.  
Description: For Moms of Teens and Pre-teens in Palo Alto and Surrounding Communities. We all share a vital need for social connection. Yet we’re so focused on supporting our teens, we often neglect our own social relationships. To support our teens well, we need to be supported ourselves. This 9-week holistic wellness program for moms weaves together community building, gentle yoga, mindfulness, and, perhaps most importantly, authentic sharing about the realities of raising teens who are anxious, depressed and/or under a great deal of pressure to succeed. As the founder of MBSM, Jaclyn Long is a Marriage & Family Therapist specializing in supporting anxious and depressed teens and their parents. For more information visit
To register contact:
Jaclyn Long, MFT
Founder & Director, Mind Body Spirit Moms